There are buttons in us that when pressed set us off and makes us do that stupid thing that we do. It is difficult to control.
How we solve this problem is entirely up to us. Unlimited ways of fixing problems. The therapist may not know best. Only I know what I need. It all depends on how well I know myself.
Who am I?
Live a simple life. Less clutter. Less waste and less unnessary value adding. Why do we need to be so complicated when we can be simple and uncomplicated?
My unconscious habitual behaviours causes me to get stuck in a rut.
I need to change. Be more conscious of what I do and who I am. Understand myself better.
It is probably just one issue that I have. I may have had the same issue for many lifetimes. The very issue why I am here as a human to learn my lesson and once I am done not to repeat the mistake. Change myself.
It is not going to be an easy lesson to learn. First thing is to figure out what the lesson is. It is unique to me. The lesson is pre determined and chosen for me before I came as a human.
We are told that our ego is the cause of a lot of problems but this very ego or sense of self is also the root of kindness and compassion.
Without a sense of self it will not be possible to love and be kind.
I think therefore that there is nothing wrong with a sense of self. There is nothing wrong with it unless you make it so. Just understand what it is. That is all. Use it wisely.
Kindness then will be the real stuff. And goodness will be genuine. The arrogance in us is more tempered. It is ok to be prideful if earned.
How well do I know myself? Who am I?
We have always been complete. We forgot that is all.
We can keep growing, keep achieving, strife to earn our salvation but eventually we will end up where we began.
Unconsciousness is a problem worse than a nuclear bomb
Peace comes from the heart not head.
It helps when the head is holding hands with the heart. When this is so then we can solve many problems.
Live and let live. This is something so easy and yet very hard.
There is no right way or wrong way of doing things. There is only the easy way ( strike lottery) or work hard which is the normal way.
At the end of the day, it is all about acceptance. It is what it is. Life.