Life is all about relationships

Life is all about relationships. There is no getting away from this.

Optimally how I will be to you is just the way I am to myself.

Love. What of it? You can love but you do not have to. Life is not all about love. Love is an aspect of life. There is much more to life than love.

It is not necessary to be nice and you also do not need to be unkind. That is all. It is not being indifferent but caring enough not to spoil.

If you choose to love then you must try not to let love eat you up. The clinging, the grasping, the manipulation, the control and the unacceptance. This is not love anymore. It becomes painful. Real love needs to be free.

We always want things to be something other than what it is. We will never get the thing we want. It is illusive. What we need to do is just to work with what is in front of us. What we have. It may not be ideal but that is all we got. We can try and make it work. Make the most of things. If that is not possible then let it all go. Walk away. A non relationship is also a kind of relationship. But first we should try our best to make it work.


Just be kind to myself

I need to be kind to myself. It matters.

What does not matter is that there are many problems and everything sucks.

The only thing I can control and that is important is that I need to be kind to myself. That is all. Just be kind to myself.


Just like everything else in life. Everything is as it is. What is. Is.

Silence is silence. It is not ment to be explained but experienced. We often over think. It is a habit.

Inner silence is a felt sense of being that has nothing to do with the noise but our reaction to that noise.

We are fond of layering. Reality gets distorted. Peel back the layers of the onion. And look again.

Re connect to the ‘What is’ that is life. See it. Experience it. Silence. It has always been there. Things are not as it seems. Things are not always as we think it is.

Consciousness explained

Consciousness is something that is often misunderstood. Consciousness is who we are. We are conscious beings. It gives us our sense of self. The essence of our being. We are all unique conscious individuals.

Consciousness is made up of three parts. It is made up of our memories, our experiences and knowing. Knowing is intuition, understanding and conscience. We know a lot of things. We do not always know why or where it comes from. We just know.

An event is an event but how it is imprinted into our memories, how we experience it and what we know can vary. It is subjective and unique to the individual. This is why there is a self.

In reality, we are infinite beings. Our consciousness is as big as the universe. It is fired by an energy. The same energy that fires all creation. No words can describe this energy. But because of attachments we have limited ourselfs. We are no longer open. We have become small minded. We even deny the existence of a self even though it is in plain sight.

A sense of self is just a sense of self. A proper understanding is a good thing. We often make it into what it is not. If non self existed nobody will be around to talk about it.

Consciousness is not unique to man. There are many things that have consciousness. Inanimate and animate. Consciousness is not limited by the body and it is always there.

Forgetting who we are

If we spent our life concentrating on what everyone thought of us, would we forget who we are?

What if we no longer can tell the difference between what is real and what is not anymore?

What if the face we showed the world turned out to be a mask. A mask that we put on everyday so often that we became the mask? And beneath the mask there is nothing there?

We pressure each other to conform to some arbitrary man made standard. This is not who we are. We are not like this at all.

Why are we doing this to ourself? To what end?


We must picture hell as a state where everyone is perpetually concerned about his own dignity and advancement, where everyone has a grievance and where everyone lives with the deadly serious passions of envy, self importance and resentment CSLewis

The universal truth ‘As it is ‘ when applied to life means to me that we do not live life doing what we think is right but maybe we should live life doing only what is needed. We are often obsessed and busy ourself making a lot of fuss about not much. We hurt ourself and everybody.


The more effort we put in the more we will get out of life.

If we practise at being angry then we will become angry. If we find fault then there are many faults to find.

If we practise at being happy, then we will be happy. If we live life from one experience to another then that is what we will get.

For me I like to practise self mastery. I want to deeply understand myself and life as it is. Not as I think it is but as it actually is. What is. Is. There are many things that are as it is. So there are many things to discover.

I try to understand my emotions. I also try to understand my mindset and my personality. I want to observe my mind, how it works. I try to be conscious of my unconscious habits and behavours and all my triggers. I need to look at all my defaults. The attitude that I often deploy. The pre programmed little sub routines that is me. My auto pilot. Things that I do without much thought.

The sum of everything that I am reveals a lot about where I am headed in my life. Life is a process. Things do not just happen suddenly. Not much is left to chance. We are all where we are ment to be.

There is much to discover about myself. I just need to take time out to look. It is well worth the effort.

This life we live. We need to live it responsibly. We need to live it masterfully. This is the mark of self respect and kindness to self.


The more control we want the less control we seem to have.

The more stubborn we are the more stubborn the world is to us.

Somehow the universe sees everything and is always a step ahead.

If we challenge we will be tested.


It is often the case that we look at everything in terms of ourself. This is the view that is habitual. But is this reality?

If we fail to suffer with everybody else who is suffering. People who are different. People with different cultures, language, traditions and religion then we need to question our humanity.

If they have no rights then do I deserve rights. If they have no place in the world, then I should question my place in the world and not be caught by being a hypocrite with double standards.

If I cannot do even this simple thing then I am lost and hope for humanity dims. We are all accountable. After all we are in the same boat.


How do we deal with regrets?

Regrets are a part of life. What is there is there.

The universe is kind and generous. Once in a long while it wipes the slate clean globally.

When that happens, we need to make the most of it. Free up our hearts and heads and make the most of this opportunity to start all over again. Anew. With gratefullness.

Forgiveness. It is not what we deserve. Just happens. Just is.