Protocol is rubbish says the Queen

Michelle Obama wrote in her book that on her visit to England she met the Queen of England. The Queen reportedly told Michele that protocal is rubbish. Dont worry about it. Relax.

How true. If we pause to think about it, a lot of the things that we do are man made. We make up rules and regulations on how things should be and tie ourself into a knot.

We often make a lot of fuss about nothing just because someone determined that that is how things should be. Why? Needless really. We should put all the made up rubbish into the bin where it belongs. And not force it onto everybody.

Walk away from all the nonsence. Religion, tradition, culture, education. Social media. Most everything. We were never made to be put into a box.


Emotions keep us in check

It just dawned on me that all our emotions are just one thing. It gives us information about ourself.

Essentially emotion tells us how things are as it is. Anger, shame, frustration for example is there because we want things to be something other than what it is.

Pain is a good thing. It tells us that something inside needs to be rebalanced and faced.

Once we can see this, we have a choice to close the gap. Seeing is the key.

If we walk away and not do anything we will always be angry, ashamed and frustrated or whatever. The pattern of behaviour will repeat itself. The same emotional turmoil will constantly be triggered.We will be stuck. We will always find ourself back in the same old situation over and over in many guises but it is essentially the same thing all our lifes.

We can be free only is we can face ourself, accept the situation. Accept the information given by our emotions. Be self aware. See. Do not block, tell lies and hide from ourself. Deal with the problem. Try and set things straight.

Turn things around. Pull up our socks. This to me is kindness to self. The aim is not that there is nothing or God is going to set things right. Religion has been misleading. The truth is that we have to solve our own problems.

As long as we can feel we will have emotions. Feelings keep us in check. Its an inborn self regulatory mechanism often misunderstood.


We can put our hearts into things. We do it all the time. It is ok to put our hearts into things if it feels right but we must not forget to bring along our brain.

How to solve our problems

“The most effective way to do it, is to do it.” ~ Amelia Earhart

It’s not that we cannot see. Everybody can see. But nobody is willing to get out of our comfort zones. This is where we set our limits. We cannot accept the truth and we cannot change. Nothing is wrong. This is why we are stuck.

We end up, in denial, unconscious, blocking up, making excuses, build walls, create mind made obstacles, blame, judge and become pious, tell lies and run away from issues that are staring at us. We just cannot bite the bullet. We hope that someone else will do it for us. They won’t.

We complicate everything.

At the end of the day and with the wisdom of hindsight after the world is destroyed, I think that facing the problem straight on is the simplest and easiest way. Even though it may hurt a bit.We just need to be brave and truthful.

It’s not difficult. We make it difficult.

It’s all there

One of the questions that Steven Hawkings was working on was about the question whether information can be lost in the Universe.

I think that everything has been given. It is all there. Nothing is lost. It just depends on whether we see it or not.


If I want to be superior then it means that someone must be inferior. If I am a victim then someone is a bully.

The truth is that we added meaning and values into life when in reality there is nothing. We make such a fuss and built walls and tied ourself up in a knot.

Why can’t we choose to live a life where we are not superior so that nobody is inferior. There is also no victims so there are no bullies. Maybe not fully but as close as possible.

Wouldn’t this world be a better place?

Everyone wants happiness so they think that they can achieve happiness by choosing to be superior and a bully or something similar. There is a need to be above somebody.

The effect is that they will get everything that they set out to get. Everything except happiness. Everyone is miserable. Both the victim and the bully. Why??

Maybe it is time to stop being a victim. And also a bully.


Over the years I have discovered what it is to be really smart in every way. Body, mind and heart. And that is to accept my limitations. Let go the attachment and self satisfaction of smart. Because it is holding me back. Mere arrogance. I am grateful for everything that is given. It can be gone in an instant. Enjoy life. Every season of it. Be light footed and fancy free.


“The greatest enemy of knowledge is not ignorance.

It is the illusion of knowledge”

Stephen Hawkins.

Don’t go chasing after knowledge. Things will come to you when you need it. You get just enough. No excess. Things clicks together the pieces of the puzzle and understanding will come. What you want to do next is up to you. If you want better outcomes then you need to make wiser choices.

Knowledge is transient. Knowledge for the sake of knowledge has no application. Chasing after it means you are chasing your tail.

Knowledge that is given to us is there but not everyone can accept this knowledge. They only accept knowledge where it is acceptable to them.

For me, I often think that I know things but I don’t. Not really. Human thinking. It is just mere arrogance. Gets in the way.

Law of equal and opposite reaction

In everything that we do there is an equal and opposite reaction.

When we push at life, life will push back right at us in equal measure. If I am a bully there is always a reaction. Tough with tough. We will encounter many problems. Nothing is as we expect it to be. We often do not get what we want. Nobody forgets the wrong done. We cannot ever take it back but let it run it’s course. The way forward is not going to be easy if this is how we operate. We will only get frustrated even when we get our way. Satisfaction is illusive.

In life there is always pay back and a kind of retribution. Backfire of sort. Consistently so. The harder you push the harder the push back will be.

At the end of the day what do we get out of this kind of thinking and this way of life? At the end of the day we end up hurting ourself. We get what we deserve. The reality is that in whatever we do everything will add up to zero. There is no gain or advantage.